14 February 2010

Baby Sleep 5

Yay for progress! Jackson's sleeping habits have improved leaps and bounds over the last 2 weeks. Most recently, he is getting at least one 3 to 4 hours block of sleep, but we seem to have a rough night every 4 or 5 days. However, the rough nights right now are still much better than the good nights at the beginning of the No Cry process.

Jackson's bedtime is now 6:15 to 6:30, and he wakes up anywhere from 6 to 7:30 in the morning. That may sound early, but his big brother is awake by 6 nearly every morning, regardless of bedtime. On average, Jackson cries about 4 times before we head to bed, wakes up 2-3 times overnight. He wants to eat once before we go to bed, and once in the middle of the night. When he wakes up, he is quite easy to settle; sometimes, just a bit of singing settles him, and if that isn't enough, bouncing his mattress or rubbing his tummy does the trick.

The goal is to teach the baby to settle back to sleep with progressively less help from us, but we still pick him up and rock him to sleep when he needs it. A week ago, as Jackson learned to calm down without being picked up, his night wakings dropped off sharply. Now that he can be calmed without being touched, he will cry out once or twice but fall back to sleep before we even get to his door.

It is difficult to write about this part of the process because the difficult nights are discouraging, while the good nights are still far from our goal of uninterrupted sleep from 9p to 6a. That goal won't be reached until there are no more night feedings. Jason easily weaned from night feedings at 9 months, so we have another 3.5 months to go if we do the same with Jackson.

Accepting night wakings, described as nighttime parenting in The Baby Book, comes to us "easily" at this stage of parenting.  "Easily" means that at least one of us has the emotional and physical energy to deal with nighttime problems as they arise.  At this point, we take the wakings in 2 hour shifts.  If the first waking is 10:30p, one of us will take all the wakings between 10:30p and 12:30a.  The other person's shift will begin with the first waking after 12:30a.  The 2 hour stretch without baby-responsibility helps us avoid the zombie feeling during the day, and when we get to add a 3 hours stretch of baby-sleep to that, we approach a normal night's rest.

Positive affirmations make a huge difference in my attitude when the reduced sleep leaves me with a reduced mental capacity.  The biggest support to our continued No Cry Sleep efforts continues to be our toddler who sleeps 11 hours most nights without a peep.  I may not remember the details of teaching him to sleep, but I remember the frustration, I remember wanting to give up, and now I see him as a great example of the No Cry Sleep Solution.

1 comment:

  1. Isn't it funny how soon we forget the things that were so tramatic while we were going through them? I haven't completely fogotten how bad Astoria's colic was or how often I was holding her at night because she would be refluxing if laid down but it has seeped from my memory way more than I ever expected.

    Keep up the rituals and he'll get there just like big brother!

    Thanks again for all of your help with the diapers! I already feel like it's paid off and it's only been 2 weeks.